So, is it a problem that I scored a 622 on the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale? And that any score over 300 puts you into the “You have a high or very high risk of becoming ill in the near future” category?
The test is pretty straightforward. You simply answer yes to anything you’ve experienced in the past 1-2 years.
Death of close family member: yes
That sort of thing.
So here’s the good news: if I take out separation and divorce, which obviously won’t happen again anytime soon, my score drops to 449.
Okay, still not good enough. Hopefully I won’t be gaining any new family members, and I won’t be moving again: down to 390.
Still not good enough. But getting better.
With the exception of the death of a spouse, divorce and separation are the highest stressors in life. That is amazing to me.
Divorced women – especially divorced moms – need to be kind to ourselves. We need to take care of ourselves. The cost of neglecting ourselves is too high.